Parents usually think of misbehavior as behaviors they don't like, but it's not that simple. Sometimes the kid doesn't know better or is testing out limits. Sometimes the expectation is too high or wasn't communicated clearly enough. And even when the label "misbehavior" does fit, there are underlying reasons for it. Often, it's an unexpressed, deeply-felt lack.
By getting us to rethink our attitude toward misbehavior, Gavriel Fagin, MA, LMSW, gives us the skills to handle it. In a live question-and-answer session with ordinary parents, you'll discover what they did: punishment isn't always the answer.
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